"Weak Ties" & Why Everything Your Parents Taught You About Talking to Strangers is Wrong

"Weak Ties" & Why Everything Your Parents Taught You About Talking to Strangers is Wrong

Everything your parents taught you about talking to strangers is wrong--at least after the age of 18. Talking to strangers isn’t just “okay” when it comes to you professional development, it’s essential. 

“It’s a bit counter-intuitive,” Jason Morgan explained in Forbes, “but in the workplace it is not the strong ties that can be the most beneficial, in fact, weak ties (acquaintances or people that you might not know that well) can be far more valuable.” That has certainly been my lived experience and here are three reasons you should embrace new opportunities to build new connections.

Professional Development & The Case For "Falling Into Fall"

Professional Development & The Case For "Falling Into Fall"

We typically wait for New Years to make a resolution but with the “back to school” rush and the changing of the leaves, everything about fall signals a season of change. As the Halloween displays go up at CVS and pumpkin spice lattes return to Starbucks, autumn is the perfect time to take stock of your personal and professional goals: enough the year has passed to make an effective assessment of your progress towards your goals and with 100 days left there is still time to actualize change. Here are five tips for “falling into fall” for your professional development.

In Loving Memory to Gloria Fishman

In Loving Memory to Gloria Fishman

Two weeks ago my grandmother, Gloria Fishman, passed away peacefully in her sleep. A quiet end to her vibrant and dynamic life story. Gloria was always ahead of her time: a 90 year old woman with two Ivy League degrees when most women never even thought about college. A working mom when being one wasn’t easy or celebrated. Passionate about business when it was frowned upon and even quitting her secretarial job (the step that led her to teaching) because she just couldn’t stand working for men who she knew she was smarter than. 

He Makes What?

He Makes What?

Is it any surprise that when the US Women’s Soccer Team won the World Cup and went public with their battle for pay equity that it struck such a nerve? It’s the same story non-soccer-stars are living everyday: women are winning at work, making (literally) millions of dollars for their organizations, but they’re getting paid less. I don’t know about you, but I have bills to pay and financial dreams to achieve that just can’t wait that long. Here are six tips I recommend to understand and right-size your fair market value.

The Lost Art of Non-Transactional Professional Development

The Lost Art of Non-Transactional Professional Development

“Professional development” is a term that so many people talk about but which so few people get right. In theory, it’s the practice of upskilling yourself, closing your knowledge gaps, and exploring new challenges. In practice, however, it can often quickly devolve into something much more transactional. Something, in my experience, that looks like a checklist of things you need to accomplish or improve to secure that next raise or promotion. When you ditch the checklist, however, authentic professional development can be a powerful tool for developing confidence, inspiring creativity, and learning new skills. Here are three ways to reclaim authenticity in your pursuit of new challenges and to practice non-transactional professional development.

Out of Office: 5 Tips for Rethinking Vacation Time

Out of Office: 5 Tips for Rethinking Vacation Time

I'm back from 10 days of PTO and I’m not just feeling refreshed: I have a level of clarity about my top priorities at work and at home (and how I want to manage those concurrently). It’s a level of clarity that I haven’t had since I came back from maternity leave 5 months ago and something I didn’t even realize I was missing. I also have fresh ideas for achieving my goals. As Memorial Day nears so does summer vacation season and it's not too late to carve out some time for yourself to recharge. Here are my five tips, accordingly, for rethinking your vacation time before summer comes and goes.

Why I Gave Up My Flex Schedule

Why I Gave Up My Flex Schedule

I was kicking butt, taking names, and changing diapers. Still, even when I logged back on at night or had live email exchanges with the other three women as early at 6am (a regular occurrence), I couldn’t shake the feeling that people viewed me as less committed. The comment, while innocuous, felt like confirmation of what I had feared.

Spring Cleaning My To-Do List

Spring Cleaning My To-Do List

Full disclosure: This was not the blog that I had planned for this week.

I’m typically a believer that when life gives you limes, you make margaritas. What I’ve learned this week is that when you’re a career coach, when life gives you a busy week you write a blog about it.

This past week I was overwhelmed by everything on my to-do list.

Adding insult to injury this past weekend was Passover and we were hosting a Seder. If you’re not familiar with this Jewish tradition, all you have to know is that it’s a lot of work (like Thanksgiving-dinner-level preparation). And if you’re observant, like I am, it’s not just preparing for dinner and buying some matzah. There is a whole ceremony around “cleaning your house.”

Let me be clear: you haven’t seen Spring Cleaning until you’ve seen someone clean their house for Passover.

Four Work Travel Tips for Working Moms

Four Work Travel Tips for Working Moms

This past week I went to London and New York for work. While I was away, my son crawled for the first time. Once upon a time that would have crushed me—but it didn’t. That's because I’ve learned mom guilt doesn’t fit in a FAA-compliant carry-on bag. Here are my four tips—ditching mom guilt included—for taking on work travel as mom.

Sorry Not Sorry

Sorry Not Sorry

Things go wrong at work.

When they do—if you’re like many of the women I work with, coach, or know personally—you probably apologize and say, “I’m so sorry. It won’t happen again.”

Learning from your mistakes is one of the best ways to upskill yourself. That’s why how you handle those missteps when they happen is so important. While apologizing can be an almost automatic reaction, it’s often the wrong reaction.

Friends don’t let friends make bad situations worse. You will mess up again at work. When that happens, I will not allow you to say “sorry” before considering these three things.

Asking Better, Getting More: The Basics

Asking Better, Getting More: The Basics

Early in my career I got a great piece of advice: getting good at anything is like training to fly a plane. You need to clock a certain number of flying hours to get from First Officer to Captain.

Here’s the problem: often when it comes time for women to ask big or negotiate they just haven’t put in the flying hours. That makes asking for that raise or promotion feel even more nerve wracking.

While these conversations can be hard, there’s no need to assume the brace position: you are not going to crash and burn. Nearly a decade into my sales career and tens of millions of dollars later, I’ve put in the flying hours for you--including a few botched takeoffs and rough landings.

Here are my 5 hacks to act like a Captain and successfully land that plane at your desired destination.