I found myself wondering: have my children actually been the greatest accelerator in achieving the career goals I set for myself in my 20s?
Two weeks ago my grandmother, Gloria Fishman, passed away peacefully in her sleep. A quiet end to her vibrant and dynamic life story. Gloria was always ahead of her time: a 90 year old woman with two Ivy League degrees when most women never even thought about college. A working mom when being one wasn’t easy or celebrated. Passionate about business when it was frowned upon and even quitting her secretarial job (the step that led her to teaching) because she just couldn’t stand working for men who she knew she was smarter than.
Is it any surprise that when the US Women’s Soccer Team won the World Cup and went public with their battle for pay equity that it struck such a nerve? It’s the same story non-soccer-stars are living everyday: women are winning at work, making (literally) millions of dollars for their organizations, but they’re getting paid less. I don’t know about you, but I have bills to pay and financial dreams to achieve that just can’t wait that long. Here are six tips I recommend to understand and right-size your fair market value.
Congratulations! You landed that job you really wanted: you rocked the interviews, edged out the competition, and negotiated a great salary. You’re excited to say “yes” and for good reason. Before you sign on the dotted line and put in your two weeks notice, review this checklist of six questions you’re forgetting to ask before saying “yes.”
“Professional development” is a term that so many people talk about but which so few people get right. In theory, it’s the practice of upskilling yourself, closing your knowledge gaps, and exploring new challenges. In practice, however, it can often quickly devolve into something much more transactional. Something, in my experience, that looks like a checklist of things you need to accomplish or improve to secure that next raise or promotion. When you ditch the checklist, however, authentic professional development can be a powerful tool for developing confidence, inspiring creativity, and learning new skills. Here are three ways to reclaim authenticity in your pursuit of new challenges and to practice non-transactional professional development.
I'm back from 10 days of PTO and I’m not just feeling refreshed: I have a level of clarity about my top priorities at work and at home (and how I want to manage those concurrently). It’s a level of clarity that I haven’t had since I came back from maternity leave 5 months ago and something I didn’t even realize I was missing. I also have fresh ideas for achieving my goals. As Memorial Day nears so does summer vacation season and it's not too late to carve out some time for yourself to recharge. Here are my five tips, accordingly, for rethinking your vacation time before summer comes and goes.
I was kicking butt, taking names, and changing diapers. Still, even when I logged back on at night or had live email exchanges with the other three women as early at 6am (a regular occurrence), I couldn’t shake the feeling that people viewed me as less committed. The comment, while innocuous, felt like confirmation of what I had feared.
Full disclosure: This was not the blog that I had planned for this week.
I’m typically a believer that when life gives you limes, you make margaritas. What I’ve learned this week is that when you’re a career coach, when life gives you a busy week you write a blog about it.
This past week I was overwhelmed by everything on my to-do list.
Adding insult to injury this past weekend was Passover and we were hosting a Seder. If you’re not familiar with this Jewish tradition, all you have to know is that it’s a lot of work (like Thanksgiving-dinner-level preparation). And if you’re observant, like I am, it’s not just preparing for dinner and buying some matzah. There is a whole ceremony around “cleaning your house.”
Let me be clear: you haven’t seen Spring Cleaning until you’ve seen someone clean their house for Passover.
This past week I went to London and New York for work. While I was away, my son crawled for the first time. Once upon a time that would have crushed me—but it didn’t. That's because I’ve learned mom guilt doesn’t fit in a FAA-compliant carry-on bag. Here are my four tips—ditching mom guilt included—for taking on work travel as mom.
Things go wrong at work.
When they do—if you’re like many of the women I work with, coach, or know personally—you probably apologize and say, “I’m so sorry. It won’t happen again.”
Learning from your mistakes is one of the best ways to upskill yourself. That’s why how you handle those missteps when they happen is so important. While apologizing can be an almost automatic reaction, it’s often the wrong reaction.
Friends don’t let friends make bad situations worse. You will mess up again at work. When that happens, I will not allow you to say “sorry” before considering these three things.
Early in my career I got a great piece of advice: getting good at anything is like training to fly a plane. You need to clock a certain number of flying hours to get from First Officer to Captain.
Here’s the problem: often when it comes time for women to ask big or negotiate they just haven’t put in the flying hours. That makes asking for that raise or promotion feel even more nerve wracking.
While these conversations can be hard, there’s no need to assume the brace position: you are not going to crash and burn. Nearly a decade into my sales career and tens of millions of dollars later, I’ve put in the flying hours for you--including a few botched takeoffs and rough landings.
Here are my 5 hacks to act like a Captain and successfully land that plane at your desired destination.